In my experience there is an aspect of having to realise that your perfect life can contain some very inconvenient and imperfect parts. If we are checking off a list we will almost certainly throw the baby out with the bathwater. It requires negotiating with ourselves and struggling with our environment. I think we underestimate the necessity of our environment to be difficult and not comfortable. I shudder to think of finding a life that lulls me with comfort.
First, thank you so much for taking the time to read this piece! I totally agree with your point that difficulty and discomfort are often necessary for growth and evolution. I imagine there will be many more essays to come on that topic. This week, I really wanted to hold space for and acknowledge how uncomfortable those feelings can be, even though I strongly believe in their necessity and benefits.
In my experience there is an aspect of having to realise that your perfect life can contain some very inconvenient and imperfect parts. If we are checking off a list we will almost certainly throw the baby out with the bathwater. It requires negotiating with ourselves and struggling with our environment. I think we underestimate the necessity of our environment to be difficult and not comfortable. I shudder to think of finding a life that lulls me with comfort.
First, thank you so much for taking the time to read this piece! I totally agree with your point that difficulty and discomfort are often necessary for growth and evolution. I imagine there will be many more essays to come on that topic. This week, I really wanted to hold space for and acknowledge how uncomfortable those feelings can be, even though I strongly believe in their necessity and benefits.